marijaaaaaz (marijaaaaaz) wrote,

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What to do....what to do.....

I've only been home a few minutes since dropping Jay off at preschool, and I have a gazillion things to do, but I haven't got a clue as to where to begin.

It's Friday, so I like my house to be extra clean for the weekend (only to have it be destroyed again by a bunch of kids, yes, I know..a losing battle.) But I have a little bit of a dilemma. I want to start that Friday cleaning ritual but here's the problem. You see, I'm trying to teach my children the true meaning of responsibility....You know, cleaning up their own messes, being responsible for their own personal items, spaces etc,. Well, I can't in good conscience clean up their breakfast mess, shower mess and dirty clothes mess from this morning. What would I be saying if I did take care of it all? That would definitely be sending the wrong message. So, even though I CAN'T STAND it, I'm going to ignore it so my kids can eventually learn a thing or two about responsibility.

Good news is, I think one of my strategies is working. They claim to never have enough time in the morning to clean up after themselves. Well, since the start of school two weeks ago, their bedtime has been getting earlier and so has their wake-up time. They don't like that too much. I can tell it's working because today's messes aren't as numerous.

A previous strategy of mine was to point out how a few messes per kid multiplied by five kids can really add up to a lot of work for me. This never worked. I've learned that for the most part they can't fathom a grownup's feelings and that everything is all about them....and it should be all about them. I've also learned that making consequences for their actions more personal to them individually are more effective. The loss of something they love seems to work best for us. DS, Gameboy, PS2, stuff like that.

There are other things I can do that won't touch their morning messes, I just need to muster up the energy to go do them.

I've rattled on long enough for now. I'm sure I'll have more stuff to jabber about later.
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